Get specific, praise the accomplishment

In acknowledging a child’s choice to participate it is important to praise the accomplishment rather than to make a global comment such as “Good girl” or “good boy.” When the latter type of praise is used frequently, there is the danger that the child might interpret the absence of such praise to mean, “I’m a bad boy,” or “I’m not good enough.” Examples of appropriate praise include the following:
“Great job. You played the drum!”
“You’re good at that.”
“You did it all by yourself.”

Dr. Becky Bailey, Ten Principles of Positive Discipline, Loving Guidance, 1993

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